A foot rub isn’t a sex act? All conditional sex is rape. If the other person doesn’t enthusiastically and unconditionally consent, then it’s rape. This is obvious, and if you’re having a hard time getting it then you’re probably a sex offender.
You sound hyper-defensive and I can only imagine you have some issues with sex/sexuality (as we all do) and I suggest you do some introspection instead of accusing strangers of being sex offenders.
Also, you did not answer my question. Just narrowly defining "sex act" is a cop out since we all know different people have different ideas of what constitutes a sex act.
Believe me, if someone asks for you to show them your feet in an explicitly sexual way, it absolutely feels like a sex act even though no genitals are involved.
Let's check a few reasons someone might not be getting it:
- They're ugly as sin
- They suffer from some condition that impairs socialisation
- They can't do it for medical reasons
- They can't get it from their partner, and they won't betray that partner
- They have high standards, and won't chase after just anything with two legs
None of those reasons is reprehensible. And it's a nasty, sexist slur to imply that all men are potential rapists.
This is wrong and dumb. There is nothing wrong with unenthusiastic sex. Criminalizing 90% of normal human sexual behavior is obscene. This is an example of where the cautionary rhetoric has intentionally or unintentionally morphed to be the baseline. The idea of enthusiastic consent was to avoid the possibility of someone feeling coerced but afraid to speak up. Now its transformed to enthusiastic consent being the baseline. This arms race to control social norms by way of emotional manipulation needs to stop.