I don't disagree with you, people value different things. However most of the US is designed in this suburb style where it's just miles and miles of houses with grocery stores and food being at least 5-15 mins away via -car-. Chicago, NY, and Boston have decent metro lines but none of our public transit comes even close to e.g. Korea or Japan in terms of efficiency, comprehensiveness, and cleanliness.

The only option for the majority of the US is to have a car. And I hate that.

edit: also regarding cars: I can't relax fully because I'm operating a vehicle in a space shared by other people, who are potentially distracted, operating potentially deadly vehicles that kill or seriously injure many Americans each year, and I can't read a book, etc, because my hands are tied up. This would be fine if I had other choices, but I realistically don't.