I'm in roughly the same boat. I too dipped in and out starting in 2000, and had been reading contemporary discussions on and off from around 2009.
I want to draw your attention to some things I know due to publicly available records, things I think shed light on what really happened.
The first thing is that Rakudo began technically shifting to a multiple backend architecture in mid 2009:
* Following Jesse Vincent's summer 2009 discussion with Patrick Michaud about Perl 6 running on JVM and .NET, NQP was rewritten in the fall of 2009 to support multiple backends.[0]
* jnthn edited his website to say his first interest in working on Perl 6 going forward was "Transforming Rakudo from a single backend compiler to one capable of targeting multiple backends".[1]
> I just know second-hand that something broke the trust between the Perl 6 and Parrot developers around the first Rakudo Star release. And that strengthened the notion that another backend for Perl 6 was needed.
As explained above, Patrick had already focused his and jnthn's efforts on a multiple backend Rakudo in mid 2009, a year before Rakudo Star.
And, as chromatic has said, and the record shows, commits to Parrot "fell off a cliff" in early 2011, about 6 months after Rakudo Star, and a year before the dates of the first commit timestamps in MoarVM's git history, in Q1 2012.
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[0] https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XgPh5Li3k4g#t=2m
[1] http://web.archive.org/web/20091218092004/http://jnthn.net/p...