IMO give paper lists -- or maybe something like Notes on an iPad with an Apple Pencil if you're really married to digitization -- a fair shake. Sometimes I find my brain needs the tactile/concreteness to really build motivation.

Even just checking a box on paper! No book is going to solve the problem for you, but "Every Tool's a Hammer" (Adam Savage, of Mythbusters and Tested fame) I found to be a great little memoir about learning how to be a self-directed maker.