Every perk is scrutinized, as if serving dinner in the office means I MUST stay for dinner (I almost never do), or having a doctor or laundry service on campus is some nefarious thing.
At the end of the day, you get paid a huge amount of money to do a moderate amount of work. It's the dream, to me.
And then every once in a while people burn out and make it seem like it was the free dinner that did it. "I found my own doctor; I cook my own food." What does that have to do with anything?
(Sure, HR is shitty and that's something to care about. But that's an industry wide issue, not a FAANG specific issue.)