Source: I bombed a TED talk at TED 2011 in long beach. But I'm only 22 so hopefully I'll have a chance to do it again right in the future :)
I'm glad comedians are trying to reclaim the term "retard" but I had no context for it and it just seemed inappropriate.
Since I work often with bakers and baking companies (marketing), the word is used often and I've never once heard someone make a crack involving the word's derogatory usage. Yet, I know the word is not one considered acceptable to use to describe a person or one's actions. But how the word is used in my world obscured its obvious position as something ready to be reclaimed.
Or do Americans put the stress on the first syllable even in the verb? Stressing first syllables is a pretty common feature of American English.
And it gets stress on the the first syllable where it's used as a noun, second syllable as a verb. cf "address", "attribute". (I do realize the noun–verb distinction doesn't come play in the UK for the former.)
Damn you, internet!