Essentially what you're saying is that because someone has put money into mortgage payments instead of rent, they're better off financially, and I'm completely in agreement with you. I just don't agree that it somehow implies they're living high on the hog, so to speak; yes, they have additional options if shit hits the fan (metaphors metaphors!), in that they can cut their losses, look to sell, and move to a lower cost area and have a bit banked (and -maybe- retain their income given remote work, but also maybe not), but that's still quite a lot to expect.