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This victimhood mentality is atrocious and is something I recently wrote about. I don't normally do this but here's a shameless plug if anyone wants to read a bit more about this phenomenon.

https://inconvenientconsiderations.blogspot.com/2021/03/hero...

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I've found that women in particular seem to really try to avoid any form of "open conflict" and seem to have a much harder time taking any form of "criticism".

I'm much, much more likely to feel like I'm walking on eggshells around women, this happens with men also, but more in a personal setting.

This combined with the whole metoo movement certainly didn't help women in receiving frank feedback or mentorship.

Thanks for sharing this. One of the best pieces I've read on the topic, it's sad to see society's shift in this regard. I agree with you, and we can't know yet what the consequences of this will be in the long term. It seems like it matters less and less how good we are at what we do, and more and more what "class" we are considered to be in.

In my view there are few things more rewarding than taking control of our lives, and stop blaming others for our own shortcomings.

I'm glad you enjoyed it, I agree entirely about the reward in finding a sense of agency of ones own life. The mentality I wrote about has a way of robbing us of our independence and leads to a deeply rooted unhappiness. I truly believe it to be a major contributor to so much of the turbulence in the world today.

Very nicely put! Thank you for this. Hits softly when you’re past this obstacle. The big question for me is how to show this to your dear people in a kind and helpful way.

Your article hit home, very good read. Does your blog have an RSS-feed, or is there somewhere I can 'follow' you?

Generally append rss.xml or atom.xml to a blogspot url and you've got it.

https://inconvenientconsiderations.blogspot.com/rss.xml

https://inconvenientconsiderations.blogspot.com/atom.xml

Thank you! I see another user replied to you about an RSS-feed, do you find their answer sufficient? I don't have any social media presence as of yet, I'm just getting into blogging and that was my first ever article.

Thank you for this read. Very observant and insightful in only a few words. Communism is the outcome if this mindset continues. Like you said, we must teach others not to believe the lies of victimhood. Thank you so much for sharing. Teach it to all you encounter.

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