Google and Microsoft have never hammered any website I’ve run into the ground. Crawlers from other other, smaller, search engines have, to the point where it was easier to just block them entirely.
Part of the problem is that sites want search engine to index their site, but not allow random people just scrapping the entire site. So they do the best they can, and forget that Google isn’t the web. I doubt it’s shady deals with Google, it’s just small teams doing the best they can and sometimes they forget to think ideas through, because it’s good enough.