If it was the choice between Musk's offering and a car from a bland manufacturer without an asshole at the helm that still did everything the Tesla did? Sure, I'd drive the Mercedes or Cadillac or whatever. But there just is no such car. What I want is a Tesla, period.
I think most people know what Elon Musk is like. He promises a lot. He delivers a lot too. But his promises are always optimistic and running ahead of delivery. That's especially true on timelines, but true on other matters like functions or capabilities as well. I think most people take that into account when processing his statements, and mentally subtract some of the over-optimism from them.
There’s been a gross overusage of the word exploit in the past 10 years or so. Just because you personally don’t find something to be a good deal doesn’t mean it’s exploitative.
Exploitation would involve taking advantage of someone in constrained circumstances to coerce them into doing something they would rather not do. This does not describe one single person who is capable of affording a Tesla.
Things that are exploitation:
Slavery
Prison Labor
Victorian workhouses
Retail managers forcing minimum-wage employees to clock out before cleaning the store, knowing they won't complain because they can't afford to lose their job.
Things that are not exploitation:
Rich people paying to enable future software updates on their luxury car.
And just to humour your point, let's say it's not exploitation. So what? It still would be deception, shameless lying, snake oil salesmanship, etc. etc. It's not like corporate actions are binary: exploitation and totally OK. Even if Tesla's actions were not exploitation, they would still be as wrong.
Product: Tesla has the most foolproof and reliable charging network. Their cars have/had better range than the competition. Everyone’s heard about Autopilot whereas other manufacturers call it cruise control still.
I will probably buy anyway due to no other EV being even close functionally, but it’s a vulnerable position. Once platform-halo-bearing competitors like Apple enter the market and close the product gap, it’s a whole different ballgame.
Not to say it’s always rational.
I have a sticker for a local university on my car (just one...), I didn't even go there but what it means to me is the experiences I have when I do. That's much more than a logo.