> teaching students one thing, and then later coming back and saying "well, that thing you were taught before isn't actually correct..."
My kids are learning multiplication. I honestly don't feel like they're being lied to, or confused about what they are being taught. Yes, they start with addition and subtraction as crutches (e.g. `9 x N` is initially taught as `10 x N - N`). It's certainly not how I learned (I had to do rote memorization of the tables), but hey they can recite tables now too.
Easing into multiplication via addition doesn't feel wrong IMHO. In fact, at later grades, I'd have to learn about associative/commutative properties anyways.
My daughter in particular has a somewhat peculiar story: she is in kinder and learning multiplication from a game[0] that her older brother started playing, and the way they introduced multiplication is by telling her that to calculate the area of a rectangle, she needs to literally count the number of blocks that compose it.
Is it "wrong"? I guess. Blocks aren't really proper units, but she gets that a rectangle made of 4x5 blocks has an area of 20 blocks, first by stumbling n' counting, then adding rows then eventually just memorizing the multiplication fact, so mission accomplished? Things build up from there, first without the grid, then into area of more complex polygons, spin off into word problems, etc.
IMHO what helps kids learn is just repeatedly seeing where the memorized mechanisms can be applied and where they can't. Eventually multiplication becomes second nature and the addition/subtraction crutches come off.
[0] https://www.prodigygame.com/