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> The women tend to retreat from casual sex because they don't want it (and not only because the pickings are subjectively slim, but also because the expectations for them to 'put out' are very high);

I'm not sure I follow. Women don't want casual sex because their potential partners do?

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Everyone with a sex drive wants sex, but they want it from the right person. The heuristics surrounding the "right person" selection process have been destroyed. The women I know who have retreated from dating have almost unanimously expressed frustration with both the poor selection of available men (because their standards have been artificially inflated) and the constant push from the available men for the women to engage in casual sex (the men no longer have meaningful and safe road maps for how relationships should progress).

The article is about casual sex specifically. That has nothing to do with women who don't want casual sex in the first place, because they are willing to have sex only in committed relationship.

Well, that starts to get into the hairy territory of what women say they want vs. what they actually want. And due to inflated standards from dating applications (constant swiping due to thinking there's something better around the corner), I think you see what I'm getting at.

> what women say they want vs. what they actually want

Not particularly gender-specific, people say what makes them comfortable, which isn't always the truth.

The point is that every woman can easily find casual sex so opting out is a choice.

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