Having a home is definitely expensive, but in my mind it also comes down to manage money.
When you get your pay, put aside money first and save for dedicated budgets.
Decide what budget you think is required in each slot.
Example:
I want a house saving for min $30000 for unexpected and expected maintenance.
I want a minimum of $8000 for vacations.
Etc
Then, save as much as you can into those accounts until you reach their goal and then keep saving into them, but maybe lower the amount.
In the beginning (and if your out in time, this will be while you're DINKing) it might be rough, but it will be easier as your buffers stabilize.
When fixing the house, don't steal money from your travel buffer. And absolutely never take money from house buffer for travels. :-)
I think a lot of people spend way to much on luxury, like eating out or having three movie streaming services instead of none or one.
And then they realize that "oops, no money left for savings this month neither"
Survival, savings, higher standard, then luxury, not the other way around.