You're using words and phrases with significant legal implications to characterize things that don't meet the well-understood legal definitions.
I don't think you're being dishonest, but I fear you've been bamboozled by the dishonest arguments of others, and are now parroting them.
I may not like the decisions made by private companies, but private companies doing things I don't like w/r/t hosting speech is preferable to getting state power involved.
I don't like Nazi's marching in Skokie. And I don't like what the right insists of calling "cancel culture". But both of those things are constitutionally protected for good reason, and those rights are worth defending.