Please provide actual sources to these claims. SpaceX has made roll out of consumer terminals a priority and started basically as early as it was possible.

If the military was really the primary target, why would they do it like that?

Not launching it until you have laser link would also made more sense if you wanted to sell to the military primarily.

The military and other commercial have run some trial test but they are not close to ready to adopt them. The military also doesn't need nearly as many sat to get the coverage.

Launching 12k+ sats just for the military makes no sense what so ever.

So please, substantiate your claims with something other then speculation.