+1 for Paper, also works well with GeyserMC [0] so your Bedrock friends can join. BTW, the GeyserMC community is really great, top notch support via Discord with a fancy integrated bot and automated builds that you can just drop into you plugins folder.

I use this Docker image with Docker-compose: [1]

[0] https://geysermc.org/

[1] https://github.com/itzg/docker-minecraft-server