"clearly racist and also sexist but it seems like these definitions are only selectively applied."
No, they are not 'selectively applied' - in their view.
In 'their version' of 'racist' - they cannot be racist - only White People can, because it's a matter of power. Even if you're only 15%. Get it?
This is one of the 'root causes' - the rhetorical position that The Woke have taken is highlighted in 'White Fragility': White people are all White Supremcists by definition, they are all walking, talking 'root causes' of the problem, and therefore cannot even have any real knowledge of the problem. All they can do is shut-up and try to empathize.
So this is not 'racism is judgment based on race' it's 'racism as White people have power and others don't ergo, they are racist'.
It's a masterful rhetorical technique: your opponents are by definition wrong.
Scientologists do this. They are taught that they are 'clean and clear, essentially above human' and that regular people are 'broken people, like animals' and there's no point in arguing with a dog. Some of their rhetorical techniques are shocking.
That's a great world to live in, right?
It speaks to our worst prejudices. Every day on TikTok I see racist and misandrist content, mostly by White Women and it's not only 'ok' it's pass off as 'enlightened'.
It's a very powerful thing to be able to take ostensibly a moral position, but then to also bigoted at the same time - I feel it's the intellectual parallel to the power that police feel when holding a gun against someone who is 'bad'.
One group can run around wielding their arbitrary moral policing, the other can't speak on the issue and so you have bad public dynamics.
I don't know the answer but Phase 1 I think should be to recognize that irrespective of power, that bigotry is bigotry and actions, headlines, policies etc. that are race based have to be treated with caution, very conservatively (small-c), with deliberation.