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Comment by colineartheta | Hacker News Reader

Both this and your above comment might just be the most uninvited and self-absorbed accounts of internal reasoning I've encountered in a neutral space online in a long time. Maybe you can do a deep dive on your presentation and determine the abstract reason why you think colleagues aren't interested in the same things as you (hint: it's not the topics).

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Seems like I struck a nerve here... I didn't realize I'm not allowed to use HN to start discussions with other readers about topics they bring up :)

I like to post about these kinds of thoughts on HN because I feel the crowd is the type to offer useful insights I don't find elsewhere on the internet or even IRL. Do I have a tendency to ramble? Sure, look at my post history...

If you have any insights about what I mentioned (a thing I've been curious about for a long time), I'm all ears - but I don't see how being salty is contributing.

I can understand why my comment reads "salty" - I apologize for that. In all honesty, based on what you said, I actually think you and I have much in common (having undergone similar technical exercises for the pure sake of understanding). My issue was/is your delivery (albeit typed and perhaps it is just the medium, again, apologies) - you didn't start a discussion, even when the parent responded you hardly even acknowledged what they said before you simply doubled down on speaking "at" them/us about yourself and your interests in affirmative statements (that in all honesty read like you're "one-upping" everyone for some reason) that leave open very little room for an equitable response. I guess, what I'm trying to say, is that I think human nature is such that people want to feel comfortable with another human before diving into a technical topic with them (even on HN!). That rapport is subtle and relies on so much more than just factual knowledge or a common project; it needs genuine, mutual interest in other people, and if I could make any suggestion (advice I try to take myself) it would be a more polished delivery. Or, as my mom always told me, "it's not enough to be right all the time - you have to be kind, too."

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