The problem is the books don't really tell you. They're written in this mathematical way that kinda obscures how to actually think about them practically. If you're more into math maybe stochastic calc will be just fine for you.
Here we go anyway:
Hull: Futures, Options, and Other Derivatives
Natenberg. Don't recall the name, but this is maybe the closest to practical.
Paul Wilmott, Quantitative finance.
Taleb, Dynamic Hedging. Got a signed copy :)
Also I think it's smart to read about instruments that aren't options, ie don't just cut to the chase. Time value of money, futures, forwards, bonds, swaps, equities. Then vanilla options on all those things, then exotics.