Problem is that children suck up all the time. So I would pretty much wait until I want to spend time on children and not on my stuff or my partners stuff.
I'd probably have children when I'm retired, whatever age that be.
I'd probably have children when I'm retired, whatever age that be.
There's never time unless we prioritize. Plenty of people are great parents despite being busy.
My rabbi has ten kids. Ten. And he is still able to run the congregation which is probably not less demanding than whatever you do (statistically speaking). This kind of thing is common in certain communities.
So it's possible just a question of what's important to you. If kids fall behind brunch and posting on HN then yes we are too busy :)
But I bet his wife is the one who does overwhelming majority of leading kids and care. Because with standard 40 hours and 6 kids he would already be impossibly stretched.
I'm pretty sure that I wouldn't be able to spend months travelling every year, or a week cutoff from the rest of the world, doing my own projects, every couple of months, if I had children.
I'm also sure the rabbi has a massive support circle. I, on the other hand, am alone with my partner.
I know what my parents sacrificed having me and my siblings. The world today is not build for nuclear families and the world before was nothing close to nuclear families. My parents had to relocate and had no support. They really cared about us and had no life outside of their children. I couldn't do that.
There is a significant loss of freedom and time when one has children today.
Yes, I know that a significant number of parents are horrible people or have children in horrible conditions but I do not think that should require me to have children.