I don't say this to dismiss your experience, but just to share a counterexample:

I found Elixir extremely easy to learn (despite having no Ruby experience, nor any significant experience in any functional languages). I went through the (excellent) official tutorial in a couple days, skimmed parts of Saša Juric's book, and felt reasonably confident diving in to actually writing code. Within a couple weeks I felt like I "got" OTP and idiomatic Elixir.

I do agree that, at least for somebody who uses Intellij IDEs exclusively, the lack of good first-party support sucks. I do most of my debugging via unit tests and "printf" because the Intellij Elixir plugin's interpreted mode is just too slow for the debugger to be useful to me.