This sums up my experience developing on macOS as well. Apple forces you to use broken API's and then you have to find workarounds to make your app usable.

Someone should start an Apple developer support group on appledevsupport.group or something and get users to upvote broken API's (and broken terms of service: like mentioning donations are accepted in a free app!) that need fixing. Getting enough developers in one place to embarrass them might be the only way to make Apple care.

Filing onerous radar reports to help Apple is not my job.