From what I see in discussions: they do care. But it seems they have simply accepted Apple as a benevolent dictator.
I think if people bothered to read beyond blind hatred, they'd see Apple users _do_ tend to care - and are often very critical of Apple, which is what you'd want. Hell, read any of Sneak's comments on here - they might be the perfect example.
Ultimately, until another ecosystem can match what Apple provides (Windows & Linux do not), I don't see a particular point in attempting to switch. I'd rather be critical of Apple, disable the things I don't like or trust, and then do actual things with my life.