The truth is that in northern latitudes, anyone with dark skin is simply unable to meet their vitamin D intake from sun exposure alone. In certain parts of America, and a lot of Europe, a dark skinned person spending the entire lit part of the day outside buck naked is still not enough to synthesize enough vitamin D to be sufficient. Supplementation or dietary ingestion is necessary.
For me, as a dark skinned person in a northern latitude, my levels were very low. Taking 2000 IU a day did nothing. I had to take 10000 IU a day in order to appreciably raise my Vit D levels. That is what we found after checking with a doctor. I would recommend anyone else do the same. 5000 IU + is typical for people with vitamin D deficiencies. Some doctors even recommend extremely high megadoses to reset your vitamin D intake.
All that matters is your serum level. 800IU may work for you, but you may need several times that. Best to just get it checked. People feel better at different levels, e.g., I seem to feel best around 35-40 ng/mL.
Check out Dr. Rhonda Patrick (@foundmyfitness) on the topic: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uc815fQn8iY.
Plus if you actually do OD, the symptoms are very apparent and treatment readily available.
Also to OD I think you need a LOT more than 5000 IU a day.
My doctor prescribed 1 week of 15000 IU a day, then a week of 10000 IU, then a running dose of 5000 IU a day. I've seen measurements of 50k IU from a day in the sun. 3000-5000 is not too much or "obscenely high" for many people, but as with literally everything like this, its best to consult a doctor about an individual's needs.
And the older ones are probably just telling you what was the conventional wisdom when they did their education 20 years ago.
Also this person did not wikipedia what they posted, as wikipedia also lists tolerable upperbounds for adults as 4000 IU / day.
I've been taking 1 pill of 1000IU whenever I stay inside an entire day without even 5 minutes outdoors, but I really don't know for sure what the recommended doses are.
It still does the job, I presume.
It's just like taking a vitamin. It's also a low enough dose to be safe for my adult body size/weight.
Get yourself tested - if you're severely deficient start taking large doses (3000IU - 5000IU or more) for a few weeks, get yourself tested again and then adjust.
If you're not deficient just keep doing what you're doing.