At least in Canada, discrimination is considered the denial of something, but anything that improves someone's condition on the basis of race is fine.
[Race] may not own houses. -- Illegal. [Race] is given extra help to own houses. -- Legal
[Race] may not own houses. -- Illegal. [Race] is given extra help to own houses. -- Legal
https://laws-lois.justice.gc.ca/eng/const/page-15.html#:~:te....
You do see anger when individuals perceive they can't afford homes, school, or other big ticket items and perceive that they aren't given help - but that isn't quite the same as denying people something.
Which is fine if you're part of that the well-off, but if you're just a person and not benefitted by the categroy association with rich people who happen to be the same race -- a simplistic association that discriminatory, racist people make -- then you're shit out of luck.
Discriminating against people is denying them something, it's denying them a fair shot, fair treatment by the government. Regardless of their sex or skin colour they deserve fair opportunity.
How is that not denying them help?
> On average [Not-Race] has more wealth to afford houses, or home ownership is more common than [Race] in these programs.
So why not just have your aid program be based on wealth, rather than race?