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Because it demonstrated just how out of reach an actual relationship with someone is for me.

>Somebody else enjoying content they paid for has nothing to do with you - it's easy to avoid and easy to not be involved.

I'd argue that platforms such as these have an effect on gender dynamics in society as a whole.

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Sites like OnlyFans have nothing to do with you or relationships in general. The vast majority of people don't go on those types of sites.

I assure you, the thing that is stopping you from being in a relationship isn't Only fans. I'd recommend trying to find ways to build up yourself confidence.

What women expect from men seems to have sharply risen in the last decade. Before getting my degree and getting in shape I was able to find partners. Nowadays people aren't even willing to be friends with me. If women's expectations in fact haven't gone up then I have no idea what the people from my past saw in me that more recent people don't.

When you climb the social ladder, there's a brief moment when yours and women's expectatitions aling, but that moment quickly passes and you enter the territory when the sides flip: women chase you, but you stay clear of any legally binding relationships. You perceive loneliness as a flaw, I perceive it as freedom, and while we're both lonely, we derive the opposite emotions from it.

Well I somehow went from having multiple exes beg me to marry them at one point all the way to not even being able to get to know a single woman in years. The complete lack of women in any aspect of my life has proven to be extremely inconvenient(even outside the context of dating)

Youth

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