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For the longest time I thought I was a loner and an introvert... until I found the right people. I'm still enjoying me time more than average, but at least I know I don't have to "train" to socialize - I just have to find people I click with. And yes, it can take the longest time to get there, and it can happen in the unlikeliest of places.

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I’ve found it helpful to divide being shy and being an introvert into two different buckets though they share some similarities.

The introvert classification helps me know how I best recharge my batteries: alone time where I can process my thoughts.

Shyness seems to be more tied to fear of how other people will reach to something I do or say, making it feel like it is better to just not interact.

Shyness / fear feels like something I can work on; I was a waiter for a while and that really helped me in this regard. Introvert feels more like something to be in tune with regarding how to recharge when you feel depleted.

The least likely of places is in my apartment during a pandemic, but I'll move to a larger city after it ends where there will be more opportunities in general, and with others with similar interests in particular.

It’s important to find a tribe of likeminded people, it makes us a lot more acceptable of ourselves and socializing with them is no effort whatsoever. Ultimately we all need to fit in, no matter how small the group is

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