At the same time, cops not acting like cops, or spawning right in front of you, is a problem.

They marketed it as a game that could played that way, so it's on CDPR for setting incorrect expectations, not on the people playing for doing what the marketing told them would be part of the fun.

It doesn't seem to you like the game should be played in the way they reinforced and strongly & continuously advertised?

And you're wondering why people are angry? It's your prerogative to cut CDPR as much slack as you wish, but let's not pretend that those who don't do that are in the wrong.