I’ve never seen one in open source but I’ve written a couple over the years and seen a few others. It forces you to solve many difficult metaprogramming challenges elegantly so it is a good excuse to achieve some mastery. I’ve burned more hours than I care to admit trying to figure out how to achieve seemingly simple results. Also, until C++17, this was an exercise in masochism due to the limitations of the expressiveness and type inference, which is why so few people tried. Basically, there were a lot of unpleasant rough edges that went away with C++17 because the language wasn’t smart enough previously. C++20 will also be a big step forward for this, whenever the compilers become usable.
One thing to understand is that these libraries are highly opinionated about the abstract architectural model. It doesn’t make a lot of sense to mix components from user space and kernel space designs, for example, though both have advantages separately. It tends to be more along the lines of one abstract architectural model and enormous amounts of elasticity and flexibility within that model based on the data models, workloads, transaction semantics, and hardware you are targeting. You also still have to write a spec that makes sense from a database engineering standpoint.
At least for me, there are still significant parts of a database engine for which I haven’t built a metaprogramming scaffold. That is largely a matter of time and effort. Other parts I haven’t had to write much code for years but still get state-of-the-art implementation to spec.
Ultimately, I’m trying to automate away my job.