> the value of something is higher when it's a gift from a loved one.

There's pitfalls with this too. A loved one bought me a genealogy DNA kit - because I do tons of genealogy.

But I also do IT security for a living. DNA databases are a magnet for powerful bad actors and submitting my DNA to one would introduce new risk to me and my family members. This loved one lives in a world where this sort of risk is invisible to them. There's no simple way for me to explain it to them.

Now this DNA kit just sits here, right along with my guilt.