I used to say the same, but my perception - and I know it's not reality, but every day with it feels like this:
* I log in.
* I start setting things up so I can start work.
* I'm notified about critical updates. There will be a forced reboot soon...
* I'm watching out in case something pops up while I'm typing and whatever key I was about to press causes the 'reboot' question to be answered - and I wait several minutes and lose flow entirely.
* I log in.
* I start setting things up again as they were so I can start work again.
* There are more critical updates...
Turning off auto-update is not an option, because there are so many security holes and I don't want to end up a victim. I also don't like having to fight to try and keep the OS from doing something it will push against, so trying to creep around letting it do updates when I'm not busy and reboots when I want it to but not asking me - waiting to be told - it's hard work and stressful.
Windows is an amazing piece of tech and gets better all the time, but I find myself much more able to stay in the 'flow' and avoid stress in MacOS or Linux.