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This blog post leaves a badtaste of hierarchical management regiments of the 80's office culture. I see my manager as an enabler, not some kind of a master I need to follow orders from. I give more feedback to my manager than the other way around. They're eager to know how things are in the weeds.

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I liked the specificity in your original post.

For myself, the example in the blog post brings up a lot of feelings from previous complex relationships with managers and their managers.

I have been in contexts where asking for a heads up on skip level feedback would have seemed reasonable. I have been in contexts where asking for a heads up on skip level feedback would have felt like retaliation. I’ve honestly been more fearful of saying anything at all in skip level 1:1 in recent years, from those previous experiences of feelings of retaliation.

Negative feedback is often narrow-minded, one-sided and even plain wrong. I find it better to ask as question about future action and start a dialogue. I find leadership monologue to be Waste.

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