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You say you respect her decision, but then in the same breadth go on to say you think it wasn't her decision at all. You've written much in this thread to strangers on the internet about how you believe it was a wrong decision. You have a peculiar way of respecting others' opinions.

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respect is orthogonal to agreement. why would it even be necessary to say you respect someone's decision if you agree without reservation?

Respect seems incompatible with airing your criticisms to strangers on the internet. That, to me, is not respectful.

My aunt passed away a few years ago now. Her husband will never read this. The rest of the family agrees with me as far as I know. I don't see who I'm disrespecting by publicly and semi-anonymously questioning those decisions in retrospect.

Victimless disrespect is still disrespect.

By respect I meant that I didn’t attempt argue with her husband about it, or say anything to her, which would have been pointless anyway.

But did behind her back?

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