(I'm not "that guy" myself, but I bet he'll show up. edit: There we go: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=25179187 Thank you zabhi. )
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> The only option is to plan and engage thoughtfully.
FWIW, I feel that that begins with getting real clear on one's deepest values and motives. I think what we're seeing in the USA is kind of like when a kid from a small town goes to the big city for the first time. US culture even after WWII has always been kind of insular and provincial. (As a kid, my world was divided into SF, the East Bay, and the rest of it.) Now with the Internet everybody is up in each other's faces (also driven by those clicks, gotta get those clicks) and we're a bit shocked, collectively.