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I'm living in Iran. Here the situation is disaster. it gets worth when you grow up in religious family. I can not listen to any music, watching any movie or even worth I can not play any video games easily.. Economical situation here is disaster so I can not rent a new apartment and move in.. I forced to go to male-only school, male-only high-school and even now I study computer science at a male-only university. And I can not have any girlfriend. Even I can not get near to girls.!! At my work all the people are male! all this situation get worth when you have to live in a country with a broken economy. My salary is 100 US$ per month. and lots of other harsh situation which I can not write here.

MY LIFE IS SO F.CKED UP. I have no idea what is life? what is future? my life is just like a robot who forced to do repetitive stuffs over and over again.. (I'm so sorry because of my awful English!!! :) )

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No worries about your english. It seems like you are in a very tough position. I cannot really connect with it because it is very different from where I grew up. But if you are studying computer science, you are ona good track. That will open lots of different doors, and will most likely give you an ability to move out, or even to other country. Stay strong and persist!

worth > worse !!! (worth even kind of means the opposite)

Regarding all you critique: That is just how your culture is setup. Mostly males live a lonely live with each other, cf. the animal kingdom, where "young males gather in groups until they get older, if surviving and might find (younger) females, then". If you go to mixed classes, like me, then there are a lot of girls, which have zero interest in you (but have some "older" boyfriend) and constantly are turned off by you and look down on you. Later you study computer science and 'again' there are no girls. The situation improves, when you get older, though still you have to put in all the efforts (eg. have a nice hobby, that girls also share) to get a girlfriend eventually.

> If you go to mixed classes, like me, then there are a lot of girls, which have zero interest in you (but have some "older" boyfriend) and constantly are turned off by you and look down on you.

This is because in a lot of western countries we still have a strong culture of differiencing the way boys and girls are educated. For example, they are seperated from preschool, and expected to play with different toys. Experiments in "gender neutral" preschools show kids tends to play more with kids from the other gender compared to other preschools.[0]

[0] https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S00220...

>This is because in a lot of western countries

Dude's in Iran, not New Jersey. Pretty sure "western countries" the only ones experimenting with gender neutral anything, mostly because there are large populations of over educated people with weird ideas who have never been around children.

Sorry if that was not clear, I was replying to i_am_new_here, who is not in Iran.

Sounds awful. I'm Israeli btw, but live in the Netherlands. I heard there are quite a few Iranians who moved to the Europe, in Netherlands also. Wish you all the best. Things can change for the better!

Wish you luck in getting over this period.

Just keep in mind that your advantage is Computer Science and speaking English, use that to get yourself to a better place.

I know it is hard with Mandatory military draft, blocked banking system, covid lockdowns and many other issues, but it is doable.

https://clutch.co/ir/developers

I am curious, if you look at outsourcing to Iran, it seems that they charge 100$ per hour on average.

Are you a developer? At 100 per month, I can hire you for double that :D

No doubt the consultant companies are taking a healthy cut of that $100.

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