Except swap their wife for the random guy in a bar and we call it domestic violence and punish it with jail time.
DV is generally a pattern of varied abusive behaviour ranging from physical, physiological, controlling, coercion etc.. not a one off bar fight.
Bullying? murder, domestic violence, child abuse, rape, racism? All these things can be attributed one way or another to human nature because they exist in all human cultures. Should we tolerate them?