Hate speech is absolutely not subjective. And further, the counterexamples you gave don't really support your argument.

There's no moral high ground to claim when the opposition has repeatedly said things disparaging minorities and more recently repeatedly posted false information with the express purpose of inciting a reaction from your their supporters.

I'm not a straight white male so when/if the pendulum ever swings back in favor of evangelical christian 'morality' I would expect the exact same amount of favors I have always been afforded. I'm sure you could go on, but I don't think you have much of a point.