If you want a programming community welcoming of minorities, you need to look to be inclusive. Signals change between cultures, and you want to look at what people DO, not whether they feel "creepy" to you.

Median Indians, Africans, Chinese, Arabs, and Eastern Europeans all feel "creepy" to American women (at least until they learn the differences in body language, communication patterns, and so on). Indeed, they feel creepy to each other. For that matter, lawyers, engineers, and marketing people all feel "creepy" to each other until they build those cultural bridges.