I've had similar problems and so have many of my colleagues in silicon valley. No matter how you spin it and whatever benchmarks you show - Julia is a very slow fast language. :)
The UX of Julia needs major work - everything is just slow. If you've used Python for 10 years and it is like running through molasses. Benchmarks are meaningless for the most part. This is what bothers me about Julia's marketing - it claims to be fast, but in reality, precompilation time alone is a no go unless you're doing high-compute large batch processing. Julia cannot be come a general purpose language unless you fix these issues.
> These "conflations" sound suspiciously like excuses.
I think you're the one conflating total end-to-end time spent between given a task and going home early to see my kids if I used Python.