OK, in that case I'm not a good person to be giving advice since that's not something I've ever succeeded in doing but I'll try anyway.

I think you need to be clear about what it is you're looking to get out of people. Are you looking for co-founders, early employees or what ? I suspect most people won't have much interest in helping you start a business unless they see how doing so could end up benefiting them.

I don't know where you're located but I think most medium-size and larger cities in the US have some communities oriented around tech and encouraging startups, so you might want to look into those sorts of organizations. It sounds like you'll need to expand you circle of acquaintances to find people with more commonality of interest.

Against depression: You might want to get involved into local JS/PHP/C/whatever communities. Most people there are very enthusiastic and like working on problems (like solving, not just complaining). Some are open and visionary for new ideas. If your ideas can stand the feedback of your community (and your ability to solve arising problems (these might be legal problems also)), you are good to go and start a business.

Starting a business without any plan and vision is a sure way to nowhere.