10GBASE-T consumes too much power (2-5 Watts!) and generates too much heat for a single port (a transceiver can go up to 90 celsius!) , so it is not suitable for most of areas, including for home NICs (requires spaces for big coolers) and for enterprise switches (ports cannot be densely placed [1]). But I haven't heard of reliability concerns that USB3 has. Well, they are designed to work up to 100 meters so they should be reliable. Maybe it's all because of the transformers you mentioned?
Therefore it's very common to use alternatives like optics and simple DAC copper cables for 10Gbe. I also think home networking industry will eventually give up 10GBASE-T.
[1] https://wiki.mikrotik.com/wiki/S%2BRJ10_general_guidance#Gen...
Infiniband for homelabs is a really underrated choice, if you can source cheap cables.
How's your experience in Infiniband? Do NFS/SAMBA work well without significant works?
I mean, I have an Asus 10GbE pciex card in my workstation that works at the advertised 10 gigabit speed using a 10GbE switch, Cat6 cables and another workstation with the same card - what am I missing?
Running at much lower frequencies makes it reach much farther, makes it more immune to EMI and makes it more reliable (because the margins are much fatter when you are only using 10 % of the possible minimum cable length).
Other than the fact 10GBASE-T buyers are ready to spend a lot more per port :)
Four pairs vs one pair already quarters the bandwidth requirements on top of that.
Miniature magnetics are a thing now, possibly provide better signal integrity, but they are still are purpose made parts, and they were not around the time of first USB3 drafting.