It's entirely possible that even the ability to verify that a particular email address has a Grindr account may be enough to threaten a person with imprisonment or death in several countries I can think of off the top of my head.
So when an email-address is entered to create an account, you always respond with "pending email verification". Then you send an email saying "Someone is registering an account with us using this address." And then, when the account already exists, you continue with "lol it already exists. If this was you, you can click to reset your password". If there is no account under that address, you send the "please click to verify" mail. At no point does this process expose the status of the address.
Sodomy laws were still on the books - can you keep a clearance while openly breaking the law every time you and your partner sleep together?
That's what I have been told is the current policy in France. As long as you cannot be blackmailed with it, it is good.
I wasn't speaking directly to that, moreso that secrets have value. Some people would reveal their secrets rather than be controlled with them, others will define the value of their secrets by what they're willing to do maintain them.
This remains something quite a lot of people want to remain secret.
A bi man with a wife and a family could very well be having sexual encounters with men once in a while with the agreement of his wife (who could well have her own stuff going on too) and it could be a very healthy thing in what is a fulfilling relationship for both parties.
People have been advocating for marriage contracts that are a bit like the CC license, where you can pick the parts that you agree on.
(There are some automatic protections in the event of a separation.)