You have absolutely nailed it. Over the past 7 years, I have observed EDA tooling frustrating to the point that RTL design/verification/structural engineers in my $megacorp company abandoned this entire industry and move to software jobs. System-on-chip design industry desperately needs to adopt an open source EDA tool chain from architecture to synthesis and layout. Fortunately we have some amazing developments in this areas over the past year, specifically BlueSpec compiler becoming open sourced, SoC design and simulation framework such as ChipYard based on Chisel and Verilator. Lets hope this open source movement gains momentum and allows rapid innovation in this space.