Certainly Epic is in a place that other Apple customers are not, in having the user base to profitably run a competing App Store. But I haven't heard any where that Epic wants an exception and fuck everyone else. Apple might do that if it shut Epic up, but they could also make TOS changes that made their customer relationships unilaterally less one-sided, and that would be less "exception" than "change". (at which point "crying" might better be described as "arguing" or even "protesting")

I don't particularly like either company here, but Apple using its market power to inhibit competition certainly sounds like the bigger problem.