Allow me to make it very simple: You didn't give any reasons for your opinion. You just gave your opinion.
> ...I reckon the most correct response is, "no, u".
If you're used to that sort of argumentation, I suppose that is what you'd reckon.
> It's really incredible how often relatively straightforward conversations on HN end up veering, pointlessly, into theory of the mind and epistemology.
Apple has never enabled notifications for PWAs on iOS. Therefore, you couldn't possibly know that your "UX on iOS is better without them even being possible" because you have nothing to compare to.
What about that speaks to "theory of the mind and epistemology" in your opinion?
Perhaps you're confusing web notifications with PWA notifications. Perhaps you're thinking that Apple couldn't possibly do it any differently from Android where every website can prompt you to give notifications.
Gee, I wonder if your whole problem couldn't just be solved by letting you opt into the whole idea of PWA notifications? Then you could never turn on that switch and happily live your life without ever thinking about them again.
Somehow, you'd rather force everybody else to do it your way instead of giving them a choice and I find that to be rather deplorable.