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Comment by gitowiec | Hacker News Reader

The way men behave in this video makes me feel weird - am I homophobic? I don't meet people like this on daily basis, I don't meet them at all. Are there men like this or is this just acting which is an exaggeration? I don't recognize my feelings well, but it feels hard. I wouldn't feel like myself around such a man.

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You're not homophobic by saying he's weird, you are by saying it might make you homophobic, who told you he was gay? He's just annoying and falsly nice to represent the website

They are acting. Think "your call is very important to us" or when a customer service monkey tells you how sorry they are because their company screwed up (but then makes up all kinds of BS reasons as to why they couldn't provide an acceptable resolution).

I think they way they act is designed to mirror the saccharine yet useless and often hostile shopping experiences we have online.

> am I homophobic?

Maybe, yes, a little bit? At the very least it's worth considering that possibility -- it's not necessarily any slight against you: most people were raised in cultures that are at least a bit casually homophobic, and it's hard to ask anyone to completely transcend the culture you were born into.

On the other hand, maybe you're reacting negatively to the faux-obsequiousness, the pretending to be subservient and helpful while actually obstructing and frustrating the customer's desires? Does the female shop assistant also annoy you? In the same way or a different way?

Maybe reflect on why you feel uncomfortable?

Thank you. Your analysis showed me other side of that acting, it let me interpret that skit as a whole.

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