You're definitely right about this, but in my experience, they're all the same negotiated pricing. And the insurance companies will conveniently group different doctors/healthcare facilities based on their costs into different tiers.
You can also be sure prices will keep going up, and I like to assume that I am liable for my out of pocket maximum since healthcare providers just bill willy nilly anyway, so I know I need to keep enough cash for 2 years worth of out of pocket expenses (in case something happens in Nov/Dec of one year and carries into next year). Hint: plan to have babies in April/May, so any complications all get stuffed into one plan year, and you hit out of pocket maximum sooner. Plus you avoid the new inexperienced resident doctors coming in during June.
>It shouldn’t be, there should be a way to properly decouple employment and healthcare.
It's really simple, remove the tax benefit from employers purchasing health insurance, and give it only to individuals purchasing on healthcare.gov. Ideally no one would have a tax benefit period, and everyone would be forced to go to healthcare.gov and employer plans and whatnot would be outlawed. Politically, big business will fight that though since price transparency helps people compare job offers properly and makes it easier for people to change jobs.