You are being unfair. Show offs are found everywhere, and all in all docs are not particularly worse than many others such as scientists, economists, CEOs, whatever...
Unless this is one of those "everything's weird and 'normal' is particularly weird" arguments.
If so I agree that "everything's stupid and therefore it's especially stupid to think anything could be 'smart'"
This is like telling someone in poverty "well you're actually in the top 1% of worldwide income, and the top 0.1% of all-time worldwide income, so things are pretty great!"
It's true, but it's a useless thing to say.
I'm very weary of "people are dumb" arguments because they seem to lead to "and that's why we should dumb down our product, remove their freedom and treat them like crap" with an alarming regularity.
- polymathy, don't specialize too much, it's good to walk in other fields
- listen, being able to discuss, see the situation from all parties POV, exchange well
It's indeed rare to find this, also, I tried being less stuck up and listen but you quickly get stomped on by less knowledgeable but more dominant minds, it's tiresome.