Hard disagree. I made every possible mistake that can be made related to being too idealistic about grad school; for example, I believed:
- My advisor and collaborators have my best interests at heart
- My primary role in graduate school is to develop novel, useful, reproducible ideas
- Grants, fellowships, and stipends are generous donations freely given in order to enable the above
- Quality is more important than quantity
These kinds of sentiments caused more damage to my career than any other mistakes I have made (fortunately, I survived...so far). When someone gives you money, they definitely expect something in return, even if that something is not always clearly stated, and that something is almost always related to the donor's own career advancement.
There are PIs who absolutely prey on this kind of idealism. They can find certain kinds of idealistic students, use them up, and discard them. Graduate students should be told from day one that they need to look out for their own interests, because no one else will. I'm sure there are exceptions, but they are just that.
The best that can be reasonably hoped for from an advisor-advisee relationship is a clear understanding that it is a mutually beneficial transaction with bidirectional expectations. It makes me uncomfortable that the OP document obscures this fact.
> they aren't paying you to advance their career
What are they paying you for, then?