It feels like writing needs an additional layer of obfuscation. For example, one way to give feedback in a small circle of people might be to have a neutral, anonymous third-party rephrase the idea in their own words -- a bit like running it through Google Translate but less deterministic.
This sort of feature could potentially be baked into a service, as a checkbox. Perhaps in order to post you have to "anonymize" n number of other users' posts first.
Some further reading:
https://33bits.wordpress.com/2012/02/20/is-writing-style-suf...